If you’re reading this article you and your guy have broken up. Either you decided things weren’t working out, and you were strong enough to end it, or he decided to end it.
Either way, you are no doubt dealing with a lot of pain and conflicting and confusing feelings. You’ll be happy to know that you do have some control over how long it takes to get over the guy. The choices you make right now can make the difference between being able to move on as a healthy, whole person who will be able to find love again, or someone who is bitter and angry and unable to ever let someone in again. It’s up to you.
I’m assuming that most people reading this would choose to be able to heal fully and learn to love again. If you would prefer the second option of being angry and bitter I don’t have much help for you here, but I wish you well anyway.
If you don’t want to have to carry the weight of your grief anger and disappointment around with you for the rest of your life then you need to take decisive steps right now to put it all to rest and give yourself time to heal all those wounds. Sure, you’ll always have a few scars, we all do, but they don’t have to ruin the rest of your life or make it impossible for you to ever love again.
Here are a few of the things you should concentrate on during this difficult time in your life, doing so will help you find a little relief from the pain and also help you to be able to move on more quickly.
The first thing you need to do is concentrate on yourself. It’s a common problem for women in relationships, women are often more giving than men and in a relationship that trait can show up as a woman not doing the things she enjoyed doing because her partner didn’t want to do them. Start doing those things again. Find joy doing all the things you put on hold when you and your ex were together.
If you don’t really have any of those things, find other things that you’ve always wanted to do. There’s not a lot of things that are good about this painful time, but you can use this time to make some positive changes in your life. We all have ‘to do’ lists of things that we want to do. It can be anything from looking for a new job to getting a new hairstyle. Whatever is on your ‘to-do’ list, now would be a good time to work on those things.
Just remember, that not only can you get over a guy, but you can also heal and even improve yourself so that in time you’ll be able to give your heart to someone new. It may seem impossible now, but hang in there, and you’ll find that it’s very possible and even likely.